HOW TO REBUILD TRUST THE PATH TO FORGIVING & FORGETTING

Expert say the path to wellness begins with forgiving and forgetting. However, you may very well wonder, "How do you go about truly forgiving someone when they've badly hurt you?"

FOLLOW THESE FOUR STEPS TO BE ABLE TO FORGIVE AND FORGET

ACCEPTANCE

The first step to forgiving and forgetting is accepting that you've been wronged. You must accept what has happened and find a way to live with it. Acceptance is the starting point for moving your life forward in a positive direction.

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HEALING

It's important to give yourself adequate time to heal. The amount of time you need to experience relief from your pain varies; each person heals differently. If possible, you may want to try to limit your time with the person that hurt you while you reflect and heal.

COMMIT TO FORGIVE AND FORGET

REVITALIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

All relationships need nurturing in order to thrive. If you ignore this for too long because you're upset, it's likely to wither away. When you feel the healing process moving forward, spend quality time together - this time being present for each other is essential to reconnecting & revitalizing your relationship.

REBUILDING TRUST

This should be done simultaneously while revitalizing your relationship. The person who hurt you should be working diligently towards making you feel secure in trusting them again. Be open to their love, affection, and attempts to rectify their wrongs. If you hold a grudge, you may be stuck in this rut for a long time. It's also important to ease their fear that you don't intend to seek revenge or payback. Make an honest effort to reassure them that you wish to reconcile and start anew. You and your partner both need to take responsibility for rebuilding trust.

To move forward, you must be willing to let go of everything you once thought was true and form a new reality together. This is the foundation for truly forgiving and forgetting.

But in this case, it takes two to tango. Both you and the other party involved must be willing to make an honest effort. Though it may seem unfair to ask you to make an effort when you're the one that'sbeen wronged, this is the price you pay for freeing yourself from those toxic shackles.

People do change. Trust can be restored if both parties in the relationship are willing to work at it. While the healing process may take time, two people who are willing to reconcile and consistently seek each other's happiness will experience that happiness for themselves and an intimate relationship that will withstand the test of time.

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